tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7329817540513850224.post1579939380738716308..comments2023-10-25T04:05:04.377-07:00Comments on Botgirl's Digital Playground: Griefers, Trolls and Flaming Kittens ReduxBotgirl Questihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01707252228872837054noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7329817540513850224.post-90436515245738885402010-11-10T19:22:05.320-08:002010-11-10T19:22:05.320-08:00Farqot: I agree that the lack of such visual and a...Farqot: I agree that the lack of such visual and auditory metadata makes it easier to incorrectly project emotional tone into text-only communication. <br /><br />Prokofy: I think we both agree that it is unethical to intentionally mislead someone in a romantic relationship about gender. Also that is is wrong to lie about age, weight, education or any other factor because we fear that the other party would make a different decision about entering into a relationship with us.<br /><br />Where we may disagree is in what cases we are ethically compelled to disclose information (versus just not claiming any particular status) and to what extend the other party is responsible to secure whatever proof they need to be comfortable.<br /><br />The main thing I wonder about in your critique of me, is what actual harm I've caused anyone. I've never had a romantic SL relationship. 99.9% of the people who read my blog or have some sort of social network connection have never (and will never) meet me or even have a private conversation. So while I can understand you thinking some of my positions on issues do some harm, why should the underlying physical human matter?Botgirl Questihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01707252228872837054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7329817540513850224.post-72949449513058985592010-11-10T16:24:00.780-08:002010-11-10T16:24:00.780-08:00One of the fakest things in the book is to convert...One of the fakest things in the book is to convert the legitimate critique of gender deceivers and power players like yourself into a fake discourse about how "everyone in fact isn't really themselves online".<br /><br />Big difference between taking 20 pounds off your avatar -- and taking your RL penis off your female avatar in SL and pretending you are a female to a male or female who may not realize you are not.<br /><br />They could get over the shock of you weighing 20 more pounds in RL. The malice of gender deception is not something they will so easily dismiss, and they are right not to. Subtracting fat is about looking better and felling like your better sell; decieving about gender is about harming another.<br /><br />Of course, if your relationship in SL was predicated on your partners belief that you were a 20-year-old blonde who looked like 120 pounds and in RL you were a fat 250 pound 45 year old divorced housewife with grey hair, well sure, that's deception. But most relationships in SL that are really serious come to trust one another and exchange pictures or at least voice, and that kind of discrepancy gets dealt with more easily than a gender switch.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462957723334149373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7329817540513850224.post-46507774224853336982010-11-08T11:02:58.135-08:002010-11-08T11:02:58.135-08:00Bot,
You're quite right when you state that ...Bot, <br /><br />You're quite right when you state that a lot of the flame wars go on between people who have never met, and as a result, do not know their "opponent's" style of communication. <br /><br />A well known rule-of-thumb for written communication is this:<br /><br />* Written messages only contain 10% of the intended message; <br /><br />* Spoken messages can contain up to about 50% of the intended message (they include voice inflection, which can buffer what the words say); and <br /><br />* In-person communication can include up to 100% of the intended message, due to the inclusion of both inflection and body language together. <br /><br />While we're a long ways from reaching that 100% within SL, the use of voice technology (SL Voice, Skype, etc.) can help prevent a lot of misunderstandings due to misinterpretation. <br /><br />As the old commercials said; "Try it, you'll like it!"Farqot Gustafsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10675311390599135279noreply@blogger.com